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Dear Woman – Go Make Your Heart Happy

I was invited to go sailing on a drizzly island afternoon. I said, “Thanks, but no. I have too much to do.” My husband knew how empty my emotional well was. He said, “Dear woman, go make your heart happy.” And so I went. I chummed up with Risa and Sarah for a perfectly blissful afternoon. Rocked by the ocean, comforted by the companionship, silenced by the immense view of the azure sky we did what every woman needs to do: we were still in God’s presence and He filled our emotional wells.

Every woman I know can easily drain the vigor out of her own soul by doing good things. It’s in our DNA to nurture and focus on others. We work hard in so many different arenas and then we are stunned when we drop the bucket once again into our emotional well and find the well has run dry.

We must find little streams of happiness that flow into our spirits and fill us up again.

What are some of those streams of joy for you? I love being with people but my emotional well gets filled up when I’m quiet. Reflective. Recently I started writing poems again. Some are silly like the one I wrote this morning about the Nimble Gecko. Others are melancholy like February Mourn that captures the low sounds creation makes as she waits for her Redeemer.

I don’t know why this sort of writing fills me up. Perhaps it’s the freedom to play with words that makes my heart happy. It’s creative writing in its most elemental form. Baby talk. No editors, no marketing plan, no spell check. Just undiluted thoughts from an uncluttered heart.

So do tell. I’d really like to know. What small streams of joy fill up your soul?

  • http://www.facebook.com/miranda.martin.944 Miranda Martin

    Little stream of happiness….I love it :)

    Hearing my babies laugh, long chats with good friends, sharing popcorn and a movie with my hubby…these are some of my streams!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Lovely streams, Miranda. Who doesn’t feel joy when hearing a baby laugh? That’s a good one.

  • Maureen

    A quiet time to sit, with the dog in my lap & the cat beside me, purring, and a book that makes me laugh or feel joy. Time with my daughter, granddaughter & great grandson.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Sounds delightful, Maureen. You are a blessed woman!

  • dormmom

    I don’t know what streams of joy fill my soul. I do love to sit by the river and just think but that’s hard to do in the winter. I need to find mine.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Yes you do! Go find those little streams of joy. The thrill of the hunt can be half the delight.

  • Valerie

    Any time I can do something creative with my hands, I feel my soul fill with delight. I love to make things, especially for the people I love. My daughter and I have a handmade business and we love sharing the things we make with visitors to our shop. Seeing their enthusiasm for what we do is like a cool, refreshing drink!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Beautiful. Art and joy are such elemental ingredients to experiencing the abundant life. And you get to do this with your daughter. You are a blessed woman indeed. My daughter is joining me when I speak on the Girl’s Getaway Cruise this fall and I can’t wait! I love creating memorable, inspirational moments with her.

  • Karene

    Sitting at the beach watching and listening to the waves crash on the shore. Reading a great book. Coffee with a dear friend. Journaling my thoughts and prayers.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      I’m right there with you, Karene. Those are my favorite fill-er-upper exercises.

      • Karene

        That’s probably who your books resonate with me so!

  • Brenda

    those words are so beautiful, “Dear Woman, go make your heart happy.” sound like Jesus Himself saying them. I keep looking at these words and it makes me happy just reading them!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      I wonder if Jesus does speak words of comfort and direction like this on our most frenzied days but we brush them aside. The words seem too kind and too liberating for our downtrodden spirits so we think they can’t be from the Lord. And yet, all along the simplest steps of obedience are the ones He’s asking of us. We have lost the basic obedience to observe the sabbath, haven’t we? To rest and get rejuvenated.

  • Jo

    “Dear woman go make your heart happy”, wow I needed to hear that. Im looking at a lot of snow right now and my favorite place to be is near the water. Not a good day for that. I shall go to the pool at my favorite college and just relax in the water. Thanks

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Good for you, Jo! Getting in the water gives us the gift of feeling weightless and that’s always a mood elevator. :-)

      • Jo

        Thanks for the encouragement. Just nice to hear from another human being. Subject: [robinjonesgunn] Re: Dear Woman – Go Make Your Heart Happy

  • Becky

    Wow me too. I’ve really been struggling with this lately. Being the mom of 5 kids there’s not much time for me and God is showing me it’s time to make my heart happy! :-) Thank you!!!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      A happy mama makes for a happy home, right? Go make your heart happy, Becky.

      • Laura

        What wonderful advice! Im feeling at the same stage Becky. It feels all is being given to kids and my husband. I think its time to reflect and see what I need to make my heart happy!

  • http://twitter.com/pagee26 Emily Page

    I find my soul most refreshed and soothed when I am sitting in awe of God’s creation. I’ve found rest listening to the crash of the waves, watching the sun set, lying on the lawn staring at the amazing tiny details in a flower, or taking in the beauty of an early morning mist hovering above the road on the way to work. Many times I get so caught up in our busy routine and dealing with the stresses of life, that I forget how really big our God is. It’s these small moments that help me remember just how simple life really is. Loving God, and loving people. I’m so thankful no matter how small or insignificant I am, Jesus finds me worthy.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Just reading your comment is refreshing, Emily! You are so right about the simplicity — loving God and loving people. Isn’t that what Jesus told us to do?

  • Micaella Canalli

    such amazing post! I like to draw with my watercolor pencils … When I do this, I can see the pencil drawing turning into bold watercolors, it seems that is just the same that God makes with me. He turn my life ” drawn in pencil” into bold watercolors, into new colors and textures. I feel happy when I draw, because when I can no longer express myself with words, my soul speaks through drawing.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      I love this, Micaella. You are participating in an act of worship as you create. Awesome.

  • Michelle

    I really needed this reminder right now! Life can be pretty crazy as a full time working mom. I like to sit down with a cup of tea and a good book while playing my favorite music.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Ahhhh, a good book and favorite music. Two streams of delight that are so easily available to us. Now if we’ll just stop long enough to enjoy them!

  • Bree

    The stress of life and busyness has been building up lately and I had a small emotional break-down just last night. Your words this morning are just what I needed to hear! “Dear Woman, go make your heart happy.” Thank you! It’s time for me to relax and focus more on what makes me happy… spending time outside soaking in the beauty of God’s creation and talking to Him, having a heart to heart conversation with a dear friend, reading an inspirational book (I love YOUR books for that!) with a hot cup of tea, and creating a culinary masterpiece to share. The word “busy” has too often robbed me of peaceful, happy things but I refuse to let it win! Thank you for the encouragement, Robin! =)

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Oh, Bree, we’ve all been there. Every morning His mercies are new. Breathe! Praise Him for who He is. May the peace of Christ be upon you.

      • Bree

        Thank you , Robin. I have been feeling much more peaceful today, praise God!

        You asked what joy fills up our soul, and I forgot to mention how much I love playing the piano! Music soothes the soul in an inexplicable way and being able to create it is so powerful for me. It is truly a gift God gave me to bring joy!

  • csy

    sitting still watching my grandchildren play & enjoy each other… God is present

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Yes!

  • Jennifer Rivera-Ramos

    My happiness flow is taking QUALITY time to spend with my three precious treasures. I love being with my kids. Then, when I am alone (which doesn’t happen very often at all), I start dreaming up all kinds of things. My imagination takes over. That’s how “The Barn” and “The Journey Home” were born. I have such an active imagination, I have to find some way to exercise it-frequently! So, writing became that outlet. It also gives me another unique chance to serve the Lord by spreading His love through my stories. I also love to put on plays and such with my kids. Let’s just say creative imagination runs in the blood :o )

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Keep writing your little heart out, Jennifer!

  • Kathy

    I’m not sure that I know how. I feel empty a d discouraged. I’m not sure how to change anything. I know that papa God knows but I feel empty. Any suggestions? I feel very alone and isolated snd I’m dealing ith not only personal issues but with health issues. I m totally drained. Any suggestions and advice would be greatly appreciated.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      All the practical areas are a good place to start — get some good sleep, get good medical direction and follow it, get godly counsel, get into God’s Word. The Psalms are the perfect place to go when your spirits are low. Take heart, Kathy. The Lord is near. Call upon Him. Praise Him for who He is.

    • http://www.facebook.com/audrey.kimmey Audrey Kimmey

      Kathy ~ Robin has wonderful ideas. I’d also
      suggest finding some good Christian music…a radio station in your area or one that streams online (we like air1.com or K-Love) and just filling your mind and heart with that too. Praise Him even though you probably don’t feel like it. That always helps my discouraged heart. I will pray for you!

    • Kathy

      I understand your sense of despair. My mother is sick; she has many hormone and auto-immune related health problems and, I have to say, doctors just don’t get it. It’s a hard fact: doctors, even with all their knowledge, machines, and research, doctors are still learning. My mom’s health issues have taken a toll on her emotional well, and have impacted our family in negative ways…but it’s also made us stronger in ways I never fathomed. Illness has been a test, but it’s been an energy, too, changing us for the better. I don’t know your personal or health issues, but I must tell you that God is with you and LOVES you and will ALWAYS be with you. He’s that tender point in your heart telling you to keep going. I’m not a very confident prayer, but writing prayers really, REALLY helps me because I know God hears written prayers just the same. Don’t lose hope. The body is capable of great things, but nothing it can do will ever come close to the capacity of a strong spirit.

  • Elise Widdis

    Love it!! So encouraging!! :D

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Smiles back atcha’, Elise.

  • http://twitter.com/CamilleEide Camille Eide

    Thank you, Robin. My cup floweth over. :)

  • Melissa

    Oh what a wonderful post! I am wondering what island in Hawaii do you live on? My family and I are going to vacation to Kauai in May. Do you live on that island?
    Much love,
    Melissa

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      We don’t live on Kauai. I’ve been there only once and it was gorgeous. SO green. I hope you have a fantastic vacation and that you get your heart all filled up while you’re here in this place of such beauty.

  • http://www.facebook.com/carla.a.talley Carla Adkinson Talley

    Sharing life with the ladies in my Bible study group fills my cup. This group is made up of a sweet bunch of ladies, each in a very different place on this journey. But we do share one precious thing in common, our Savior, who knits our hearts together just a little tighter each time we are together. During our study time this week, one of the new believers in our group prayed aloud for the first time. I sat there and wept tears of JOY as she spoke from her heart to the heart of her Father. That, alone, sent the waters of refreshment flowing over the brim of my cup!! I praise the Lord for our differences and for the bond that we share in Him! :)

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Yes and amen! This is so sweetly uplifting, Carla. I’m so glad you have been blessed with that special group of women.

  • Joy! :)

    When I get alone with God and read His words of love to me. I like to respond to His love by writing back to Him through poems or conversation. Watching His creation also fills me with joy and awe. Also eating chocolate! Lol!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      You and I have the same idea of a sweet time with the Lord, Joy! Including the chocolate!

  • http://www.facebook.com/leeann.bergeron Leeann Bergeron

    I feel filled up with getting organized! Spreadsheets, lists, cleaning out closets and piles…whenever I embrace the nerd within and actually take the time to do these things without guilt of how long I give it, I get excited! AND of course, there’s always singing out loud and dancing around my apartment…and rocking out at the gym or on a hike or walk……and chasing friends’ babies around…life’s too precious and amazing to not appreciate it to the FULLEST–THIS is a stream God has been teaching me lately:)

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      If I didn’t know you, Leeann, I would say…spreadsheets? Really? But it fits. And the dancing around your apartment is the nice balance of the inner artist bursting forth. I love that you said that chasing friends’ babies makes you happy. :-)

  • Kathy

    Wow. That part you wrote about dropping our bucket down and finding the well dry really hit me! I’m able to fill my well when I write; I love researching castles, the Middle Ages, and writing fantasy stories. However, I have to mention that my twin sister manages to fill my well during those moments when no one and nothing else can. When I am at my weakest, lowest points, she not only fills the well, she willingly becomes it, holding me and everything else together. Only God can understand the depth of love I have for her. She brings me undiluted joy, happiness, and comfort. :’)

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      What a gift God gave you in your twin sister! I’m guessing she’d say the same wonderful things about you. Close sisters are like that. :-)

  • http://twitter.com/Dabneyland Dabney Hedegard

    A night out with my close friends. Taking off my mommy hat for a while an laughing with friends fills my soul.

    Great post.
    Dabney

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Laughter should never be underestimated, should it? It’s good medicine.

  • paris_dreamer01

    i am emotionally exhausted. only, i’ve done nothing but try to overcome my faults and failed, time after time. i heard something good yesterday: instead of hating things about ourselves, learn to love them; and they will become less. and, i suppose, in that, God’s grace will become more. maybe that’s what that verse means, where it says, “when i am weak, then i am strong.”

    lying on the grass and laughing about something that strikes us all as funny, those are small streams of joy that fill up my soul. facing the sky on the trampoline as the early morning as the sun rises, or at dusk as the stars begin to twinkle their light in the fading sky, and being still; that, too.

    • Emii

      and it looks as though you had a most wonderful time sailing. how beautiful!

      • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

        We didn’t know this photo was being taken of us. After a friend sent it to me I thought, only women can chum up shoulder to shoulder and “hold feet” without saying anything for long stretches and it feels completely natural.

        • Emii

          We discovered those times last year, at school, after a long hard week and we just sat there, not even having to talk. It’s such a gift, is it not? :) Haha yeah, imagine a group of guys just sitting there, not saying anything. They’d be like, “What are we even doing?”

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      May the Lord fill your emotional well with morning sunbeams and twinkling stardust and much, much laughter.

  • Rachl

    Ah, I needed this. In two days time I am going to fly from my home in England to the other side of the world in New Zealand. I am only going for 11 days, to attend the wedding of one of my oldest friends, but I am incredibly anxious about leaving my 3 young children behind.

    The truth is I need this break. I need 24+ hours on an aeroplane with nothing to do except sleep, read, think and write. I need a few days of sunshine. And I need to just be me for a while – not me the wife, me the mum, just me.

    The last few months have drained more than I had a realised, so I am going to cast off my anxiety about this trip and go and make my heart happy. I’m going to have a great adventure and it will equip me to come back and do everything I have to do better.

    I only wish that I’d manage to find enough money for my most wonderful friend and sisterchick to come with me, but although I’ll be flying solo this time, her prayers and encouragement will be accompanying me. More often than not she is the conduit of those small streams of joy. The other source for me is writing – thoughts, poems, devotions. Then I feel alive.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Fly, be free, sweet Rachl! May the Lord meet you in New Zealand with abundant blessings and stunning reminders of His presence and provision in your life!

  • Jamie

    Strolls without a goal, experimenting in the kitchen, embroidery, and walking through woods :) I’m with you, I do like people, but I need it to be just me and God to feel refreshed. Thank you for this reminder to take time each day to “fill up”!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      What a great phrase, Jamie — “strolls without goals”. Love it! My friend Paula would call that “the art of sauntering”. It certainly has become a lost art, hasn’t it?

  • http://www.facebook.com/gaylaj1 Gayla Jones

    Thank you for being so real. I needed to be reminded that it is okay to do something for myself. Get overwhelmed sometimes with all that is going on in my life that I tend to forget to be quiet and let God speak to me and breathe. Thank you!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Yes, yes, yes. Breathe. Delight in His presence. Let your heart be at peace in Him.

  • Regina

    After a very long and challenging time, He filled me up by reviving a gift I didn’t know I had (drawing and painting) and restoring another I hadn’t used in over thirty years – my voice to praise Him. And now, He is resurrecting my career as a reporter and producer – only now, I am telling His stories!

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      It’s so great when a springtime season of life starts to go into full bloom after a long winter season. Our God is faithful!

  • Anna

    I loved how you said that you love being with people but your emotional well gets filled up when you are quiet. I am that way. I love being around people, but when its just me and the Lord in his creation, I feel like I can breathe! deeply. I think wide open spaces…going on a hike and taking a moment to stop, close my eyes, and listen to the wind whistle through the trees, watching the shadows of clouds move across a frozen lake as they fly through the sun’s rays,…but also, painting. Wow, I haven’t thought about painting in awhile. Maybe I will have to travel to that stream of happiness again soon. Hours go by like moments when I paint. And drinking a pot of irish breakfast tea (you’ve made me a loose tea fiend) with a good book.
    Often, when i feel empty, I just ask the Lord to surprise me. And he loves to surprise me. :)

    This was wonderful to hear this tonight. This afternoon I got news that my dad had fallen 25 feet off scaffolding headfirst and was being rushed to the hospital. I sent out prayer request emails and texts and phone calls as quickly as i could, then sat in my car shaking and sobbing, and then started the car and drove to my mom’s house (He is in a different state, and because of blizzards, roads are closed between us). I prayed and prayed and cried and cried on the drive and then spent the day receiving and giving updates as we got them. So far, its been miraculous. He arrived at the hospital with pretty minor injuries for that sort of accident. 6 broken ribs, gashes in 2 places, but no evidence of concussion, and spine not affected, nothing else broken. Still very scary, still hard to be here and not there (especialy for my mom), but amazing. I had to drive home tonight, and on the way I crossed a bridge in a heavy winter storm and the darkened clouds hurling sleet on the frozen river below was just stunning. So I praised the Lord for that moment of beauty and praised him for saving my dad thus far and praised him for being such a good father to me and never leaving my side, even when I feel distant from him. He never leaves our side.

    And he loves to surprise us.

    I would appreciate prayers for my dad, especially the next few days, but I would also encourage anyone who reads this, to just ask the Lord to surprise you today. And then watch and see.

    • http://RobinGunn.com/ Robin Jones Gunn

      Oh dear! How frightening your dad’s fall must have been for all of you. Praise God that the reports have been so good. And how precious it is that the Lord is giving you such sweet surprises in the midst of it all! You are upheld by everlasting arms, Anna.

  • Alyne Cavalcante

    Robin, your words are inspiring and go against our interior. We need more and more of God’s presence in our lives, wake up, and feel the breath of our life comes from Him. Without saying the love of God that is evident in your life. I hope you continue this way. God bless your life and your family.

  • Marlene Legaspi-Munar

    I like spending time alone with God after being surrounded by people. I always feel the need to recharge by being alone. I also enjoy traveling to different places. I love to see the change of scenery and meeting people. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/beckyjo.cannon Becky Jo Cannon

    I have had my life turned upside down with Liver Cirrhosis & Hepatitis C. I attended the Maui Sister Chick retreat. I am on Federal Disability. But I must say without God’s great mercy & grace how would anyone make it? My small streams right now have been- the bush outside here in Kihei that bloomed out Pink Q Tips! I take lots of pictures of Q TIps. I do these things to distract myself from pain. Then instead of the old saying when God gives you Lemons….well the tangerine tree in the yard, I have been watering while ill & since December it has continued to blast out Tangerines. I think it’s like the net with the Fish. When I feel well, I just have a blast juicing that! I crack up because you can’t put them in fast enough & the seeds fly out everywhere! I go hand it out to the neighbors. Went to the wrong door one day…and said I’m here with the juice; where is…….and they said who? What juice? I am a people person but have been in a situation that I miss that. So my little streams come different now. I know the birds. Two came to my window to sing. They flew in one day & sat on the chair. I dare to dream….to write some books…. I think Pink Q Tips will be in one of them with Tangerine Juice.

  • http://twitter.com/veritycreative Amy

    I lived on Maui in 2007 — a dream, believe it or not, born MANY years ago from reading the Christy Miller series, but also through connections the Lord put in place when I was 18. I am returning, to visit, on April 1. I haven’t been back to the islands since living there and am finally prepared to come again, a peace in heart, and an assurance in my soul. Though it’s just a visit, it’s time for me to return to my past “home”…and bask in a massive stream of joy.